Our experience does not reflect the totality of reality. It reflects the reality of what we have experienced in the past.

If you use your experience as a measure of reality, then you limit life’s ability to give you a different future. And thus, you limit yourself.

You don’t do this consciously.

That you do this isn’t a bad thing; it’s very human.
You do it to protect yourself from the pain you experienced in the past.

Don’t use your experience as a reason to close yourself off to life.

Yet, this very avoidance—not wanting to open yourself up to experiencing pain again—is also what closes you off to life.

Thus, you choose a different kind of pain: the pain of an unlived life.

Life is desire and pursuing desire through decisions.

Desire calls to us in the form of longing.

The longings whose call we don’t follow and/or whose fulfillment we close ourselves off to at the crucial moment create the pain of the unlived life.

The pain of the unlived life is bearable. That’s why so many choose it.

This pain is less stinging, less vivid than a painful experience.

It is dull and lies over you like a lid.

It is bearable.

There are good reasons to choose the pain of avoiding life. For every time we act on a desire, there is a possibility that we will be hurt. That our desire will not be fulfilled. That we will be rejected. That we will fail.

Most people remain stuck with this pain. They perceive it as absolute.

They don’t understand that rejection, failure, non-realization actually mean: Your desire will not be fulfilled in this way.

Vivid pain is, in truth, an important compass.

That’s why many people choose the pain of avoiding life rather than living pain. Vivid pain confronts us with the truth. It shows us that something we desire doesn’t want to/can’t come to us in the way we’ve chosen.

Vivid pain looks like a meter-thick concrete wall, toward which our desires are currently steering us.

The moment we decide to walk directly toward our desires, it’s as if we’re allowing ourselves to be pulled into that wall with full force.

Go beyond the horizon of your experience.

There are two possibilities for what happens next:

Either it turns out that the wall isn’t a wall at all, but our idea of ​​something. The wall dissolves like a veil of fog the moment we prepare ourselves to have to break through it or to be broken by it.

The second possibility is that we truly experience pain. The pain of a shattered illusion. Our longing isn’t fulfilled, and we see our fear confirmed that our wish won’t be realized.

Those who succeed in not stopping at the rejection of pain, but instead recognize its information, come closer to the true fulfillment of their longing.

The opportunity lies in the fact that through the impact we discover that we weren’t moving toward what we thought was our longing. Pain shows us what our true priority is. It gives us the opportunity to recalibrate and align ourselves with our deeper truth.

That’s how life works.

Experience can be interpreted as “not like this” – or as “not at all”

You may have a different image for the concrete wall. It is the “it doesn’t work.”

It doesn’t change anything:

Life is a constant outgrowing of one’s own horizon, beyond the walls with which the mind encloses the known.

That’s why the feeling always remains the same:

No matter how often we experience that we’re heading towards a wall, and no matter how deeply we reach in consciousness that we can trust that the wall is either a smokescreen or a help in recognizing our true desires:

The same feeling, the same choice, remains.

Do we pursue our needs, desires, and longings even when they come accompanied by fear, or do we let them go?

The former is a “yes” to true life—colorful, intense, pleasurable, and connected to ourselves, everyone, and everything.

Making the experience the absolute truth means withdrawing from life.

Not pursuing our desires is also living. However, here the creativity we naturally carry within us, which flows through us and wants to be expressed, is guided by fear.

No matter how powerful the creativity flowing through us may be—it is the guidance of this force that determines the outcome. The content of our life reflects this force.

Since we do not only live an individual creation story, but shape this world together with others through our creative power, the world reflects the individual and the collective creation that represents our inner state.

We ignite the full positive potential of our creative power, which leads to a loving, beautiful world, and bring it to fruition by choosing our true desires AND the associated fears.

There is no path without fear.

There is no path without pain.

Only lived joy is fulfilling.

There is a way to allow joy in our imagination, perhaps even to delve very deeply into the richness of the inner world, and yet to choose not to realize the fulfillment of this inner world on the physical plane. It feels better to avoid pain (or the possibility of pain). The price we pay for this is to receive a life in which we survive but do not live.

There is a path of deep and genuine joy and bliss, which is also connected to deep pain (and thus to deep healing from pain) and deep fear (which turns out to be the idea of ​​something).

Those who truly want to live must answer the question, “What are you willing to pay for it?” with “My life.”

Those who dare to do this will discover that this means “My life so far” and that you will be given a new life that surpasses everything you could have imagined in the best way possible. Again and again.

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All the best,

Sarine